Sounds obvious, right? I mean who else’s would you live it for? Well, the real question is: who else’s life wouldn’t you live for?
Let me tell you a little “story” (this is completely auto-biographical, I must warn you – though it has a nice message at the end, so I would stick around). During my teenage years I was quite an envious person. I envied everything I didn’t have or that I wasn’t a part of. I envied the relationship my parents had with my brother, the friendship my friends had between them, the life they lead after school, how outgoing they all were comparing to me, and how everyone seemed to have some kind of romantic relationship going on except me.
What I didn’t realize at the time was that because of it I was unconsciously missing out on everything that was going on around me, in my own life. I was so busy caring about what other people had that thinking about my own needs was completely out of the picture.
Luckily for me, something clicked at one point. I understood things needed to change if I wanted to actually start living my life the way I wanted to. I knew envy was an ugly trait so I made it possible to hide it as much as I possibly could (biting my tongue as many times I needed to). “Fake it till you make it”, right? And so I did. I faked it and then eventually, made it. Kind of.
What I had actually done during all those years was channel the envious side of me into another deeper feeling. The feeling of loneliness, of not belonging.
(Wow. This is getting DEEP).
It’s been 7 years since I started channeling these feelings, and it is only now that I am understanding how much all of it has affected me. Of course, the feeling of not belonging is something that comes from something even deeper in me that I even don’t know what is (how many layers do we actually have?! Seriously!). But I know I’ll get to it. Eventually.
It is just now that I am starting to realize how bad caring too much about other people is and how much it actually consumes your own life.
One quote that stuck to me not long ago was one that said:
It’s none of your business what other people think about you, just as it’s none of their business what you think of them.
Powerful stuff, right?
I, personally, am still working on it. But I try to remember this quote as much as I can. Because it is truly none of my business. I’ll belong if I want to belong. I know I am smart enough to know if I do, so why not trust my own judgement? Why trust other’s? Do they know best? (Spoiler alert: the answer is probably no).
So yeah. I guess what I’m trying to say is: DO NOT GIVE A FUCK.
I know how hard it can me, trust me, but you have to remember people don’t actually care too much about you anyway.
As I always say, you’re not the black sheep. We all have our inner demons, and let me tell you, most of the time, people are way too busy fighting theirs to even think about anything else.
So remember, do not make other people’s thoughts your business, because they’re not. Trust me.